Ever heard of Snow birds? Yes they always move away to favorable climate, that which suits them! The very place that they resided, they abandon it because the weather turns sour and move away to some place, some unknown land where the weather is pleasant. But guess what? Do they dwell there for long? No, they do not. They just keep moving wherever it is pleasant, gorgeous, sunny, bright. They do not like task, they like to bask.
But have you heard about Snow friends? They share similar traits. They will leave you when you are in darkness, abandon you with your problems, distance themselves when you really need them and fly away elsewhere favorable to show their friendship and loyalty. Soon as they feel any kind of heat, they take flight to some other place to show new friendship and loyalty.
But do not get sad, be glad. They will come back to you soon as they get the news that you are all better now! Now is the time they will show up to show their great friendship and loyalty once again.
This is the trick they have been playing for long and will continue to do so as long as they keep finding better and better climate and simple friends who do not understand their tricks.
But, not for long! Nothing goes on forever. They get tired of their own tricks when they discover no place to go now. Now it is their turn. They are discovered, covered with shame, exposed of their tricks, abandoned, discarded, isolated.
No one wants such a friend because they are no friend. They never were and can never be with such traits. Such people are their own enemies.
Snow birds move away to favorable climates because they are birds (animals). We cannot adopt their habit in our friendship.
Friends are forever no matter whatsoever.
Yes! We are talking about :
m-i-s-u-n-d-e-r-s-t-a-n-d-i-n-g...................a big, long, meaningless, useless, senseless word. Often wonder why was it ever created. This twisted word twists people apart by sneaking between them for little or no reason at all. Whosoever invented this word is an enemy of love, understanding and friendship.
Here is how it starts! It creeps in noiselessly. As soon as it squeezes in, it starts growing, expanding and begins to push people apart. It weakens the foundation of relationship, tears down walls of friendship and over-reaches itself and becomes a prefix of understanding and turns it into misunderstanding, changing its meaning and value upside down.
How to chase it away and get back to understanding? That is a good question!
Crush it, kill it, overpower it, overcome it by...........overlooking. Yes, look the other way and see the brighter aspects. You will find that misunderstanding did not/could not do a good job like it wanted to. It did cause damage but look now....the damage has gone by the mere use of maturity and the act of forgiveness.
Misunderstanding is no match to compromise. While misunderstanding destroys, compromise restores. There you go.......everything is back to normal with renewed effort.
Let us just say, "It all happens!" None of us are perfect but if our bond is perfect, we can survive all misgivings, misunderstandings, mismanagement etc. Let us compromise to move on and not be held back by flimsy reasons for people who matters to us and are hard to leave.
In Fair or Foul weather
True friends stay together
Hardship is a strange journey, a journey with multiple twists and turns, where surprise awaits you at every furlong or so. It has bumps, hurdles, ramps, downhill and a lot more but what is most surprising of all is how some people distance themselves because of your situation while some move forward, FOR THE SAME REASON. Truly amazing!
Some true friends and kith and kin' abandon you because they think of you as nothing else other than a burden or problem, while others walk into your life even though they can do nothing but they do not want to leave you alone and want to share your burden and problem. They understand your pain!
All along we thought they were our well-wishers and friends but.............! While others, just get a hint of your condition and they vow never to leave you till you are okay.
So here is a message:
People who care for you, will always be there for you, NO MATTER WHAT! If they are not with you, they never were.
Hello there!
Appreciation letters are for kind and helpful people but this one is an unusual letter of gratitude. It will amaze you. So let us get started!
Thank you for not helping me. You saved me the dishonor of being helped by a person like you. In your endeavor to avoid me, you helped me to know you better and along with it you also assisted me to know people of your kind. As I scratched down your mask, I learnt an important lesson from an old proverb, "All that glitters, is not gold!" Your cruel attitude has taught me cautiousness, self-respect and wisdom to face people of your demeanor.
Above all, a very valuable lesson I have learnt is 'how to be nice' as well as 'why to be nice.' Being nice is important otherwise I will be making people suffer just like you do.
I do not want to be like you for now I know how small I will be and one day I will fall in my own eyes and will live with nothing, but regrets.
I could go on and on, but I have no intention or desire on wasting time on people of your category. So let me say a hasty bye to you.
Bye for now and forever,
Someone who do not want to be like 'you.'
Why didn't you tell me? How come I don't know? You have been going through all this and you did not tell me? ......are some of the common, mediocre and stereotype statements used by people to show their "sympathy", followed by empty promises and a lot more. But, everything stops right there, once the information is gathered. That is the level of curiosity.
So, what is the next level? Does the help come? Did they ever have any intention, whatsoever, to aid, assist, rescue etc. "NO!" All they wanted was something up their sleeve so that they can be sneaky and share with others.
Sharing information with such people is like inviting them to destroy you. They now have the freedom to tarnish your image 'at your own cost.' Look how they started and you will be shocked to see how it will all end.
Best remedy is to be quiet and patient and deal with your problems by yourself rather than making yourself further miserable.
If only I knew now is more apparent. If only they knew, they would have so much to talk about, so much blackmail you and so much to keep busy with! Alas!
Do not play with people's emotions. They are already dealing with a lot. Do not add to it if you cannot subtract from it.
We all somehow believe in two sets of rules. Seems confusing, right? Well this is what happens. The rules that we want to apply on others are not acceptable to us and the rules that we follow are not meant for others. Further elaborating this.......sometimes we feel that there are certain things that we can do it but others cannot. We can say anything we feel like, behave anyway we feel like, we do not need to follow any time schedule, we are too superior to do certain kind of work but does those rules apply to others? Certainly not!
In other words, we exercise more freedom than we are ready to give others. We have no sense of justice. We consider ourselves superior in many ways and hence think we are above all laws.
All this comes down to.....we preach something and practice something else. We do not want to follow the same set of rules that we make for others.
How unfair! But does not appear unfair to us, unless others do it to us!
Rules are meant to discipline us, not to lead us further astray.
So......Rule #1: Follow the same rule. Practice uniformity.
So what is the confusion about? Here it is! We have no control over our own life and yet we want to control each other!
We are all going 'out-of-control.' We have NO control over our own emotion, desires, whims and fancies, anger, our children, our life and yet........we want to impose ourselves on others. How is that possible? We fail to fulfill our own duties and yet blame others.
There seems to be complete chaos. Let us all first get a grip on ourselves and let others take control of their life. Let us all mind our own business and this will give us ample time to focus on our own problems and will lessen a whole lot of problems.
CAN WE DO IT? YES, WE CAN!
